Ever wondered how to become a swinger or what swinging entails? We've come across a great book to give you an introduction - How To Be A Swinger by JD Knight with eight easy steps to becoming a swinger.
Ask ten swingers what counts as swinging and you will get ten different answers. There is no right answer but, for us, it is more than meeting one on one for casual sex with different people or the odd cheeky threesome.
Swinging evolved out of couples swapping partners but now includes meeting privately with others for threesomes (MFF or MMF) on a regular basis (rather than a cheeky grope after the pub), couples swapping with other couples, gang bangs with lots of men and one or two ladies, orgies or group sex with more than four people, along with many other things.
Lots of swingers attend swinging clubs where they could do any of the above or just have a drink and chat with like minded people. Many attend private house parties which can range from social with some cheeky flirting to full on orgy. Most just have fun in their own homes or a hotel room.
Some would include dogging in swinging although that is a dying pastime. There is also the whole world of kink, especially BDSM, which is distinct from swinging. There is some overlap but a lot kinksters are not really swingers and a lot of swingers are not particularly into kink aspects. There are also overlaps with polyamory although for the vast majority of swingers it is about sex with no amorous intent.
It a big and fun world so if you fancy reading more have a look through this list of books compiled by JD Knight and share your own thoughts in the comments or Naughty Corner Chat room swinging section....
Anapol, D.M. (2011) Polyamory in the twenty-first century: Love and intimacy with multiple partners
Apparently, this is the first book on the topic of polyamory written for a general audience - for both those interested in practising polyamory and those who have no intention of doing so. Readers who would like to better understand what polyamory is all about will find answers here. People who already practice polyamory will find a careful analysis of the lifestyle and the various issues, concerns, and rewards that grow out of this lifestyle.
Barker, M.-J. (2018) Re-writing the rules: An anti self-help guide to love, sex and relationships
A friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. This book considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways - for example in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or child-care make complete separation impossible. This book considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.
Barker, M.-J. and Langdridge, D. (2012) Understanding non-monogamies
This volume gathers contributions from academics, activists, and practitioners throughout the world to explore non-monogamous relationships. Featuring both empirical and theoretical pieces, contributors examine the history and cultural basis of various forms of non-monogamy, experiences of non-monogamous living, psychological understandings of relationship patterns, language and emotion, the discursive construction of mono-normativity as well as issues of race, class, disability, sexuality and gender. This volume will be of interest to academics and practitioners working in the social sciences and anyone who is seeking greater insight into the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships.
Drawing on an extensive survey of real people and over 40 years of research, this revealing volume proposes that a nonmonogamous lifestyle may be healthier for marriages than a monogamous one.
Swinging in America begins with what we know about swingers and the swinging lifestyle, based on personal narratives and over 40 years of sociological research comparing swinging and non- swinging couples on factors such as personal happiness, marital satisfaction, psychological stability, and personal values. The
second half of the book explores the historical rise and contemporary decline of monocentrism―the sexually monogamous marriage as the organizing principle underlying our culture―and the implications of this decline for new nonmonogamous relationships and marriages.
Thriving in Non-Monogamy will guide you through the process of getting in touch with your inner ethical slut, evaluating relationship values, honouring your needs and fears, and developing the tools to build relationships that work best for you.
Whether that means ethically opening up or improving a monogamous arrangement, this ethical slut handbook provides stories from people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship arrangements who confront their unmet needs, insecurities, internalized trauma, and struggles with open relationships. You'll also find reflection questions to help you approach your own arrangement with curiosity, openness, and compassion.
Fern, J. (2022) Polysecure: Attachment, trauma and consensual non-monogamy
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual non- monogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she
expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.
Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides non-monogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.
Gould, T. (1999) The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers
Is swinging merely an invention of sexually permissive modern times? As Gould discovered, the phenomenon has roots that go back thousands of years. From prehistoric fertility rituals to Dionysian festivals, from the nineteenth-century Onieda commune to the twentieth-century social mirror of films such as Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice and The Ice Storm, spouse sharing has always been a part of human sexual practice.
A deeper biological urge seems to motivate this pleasure-seeking practice, one that combines two paradoxical urges: the drive to seek long term partners for raising offspring and the equally powerful drive for sexual and genetic variety. Lifestyle couples have resolved these conflicting urges.
The Lifestyle gives us a controversial and unique understanding of what it means to be part of a fast-growing subculture of consenting, mainstream adults who are changing the rules of sexual behavior for pair-bonded humans. Then again, perhaps they aren't changing anything at all.
For 20 years The Ethical Slut has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships), tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. The authors also include new content addressing non-traditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of "more than two": couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships.
One in five Americans are thought to have experimented with 'monogamish,' open relationships, swinging, polyamory, or relationship anarchy and more with the knowledge and consent of
all those involved. But to make these relationships work consensually, non monogamous people have to supercharge relating skills like communication and negotiation, skills that can benefit us all, whether we love many or just one. A World Beyond Monogamy draws on the first hand experience of scores of people from six continents who are writing their own relationship rules, as well as on the expertise of biologists, sociologists, psychologists, and philosophers.
Knight, J. (2022) How to be a Swinger in 8 Easy Steps
JD Knight’s How to be a Swinger offers a detailed and logical route to pass from monogamy into the exciting world of threesomes, foursomes and more. Focusing on communication and compersion, this book offers solid and tested advice for those seeking to enter the brave new world of swinging.
Based on Lehmiller’s monumental two-year study of sexual fantasies involving more than 4,000 people from all walks of life, Tell Me What You Want offers an unprecedented look into our fantasy worlds and what they reveal about us. It will help you to understand your own sexual desires and how to attain them within your relationships, but also to appreciate why your partner may have sexual proclivities that are so different from your own.
Labriola, K. (2014) The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships
In this workbook you will find 42 exercises with supporting text, developed by a professional relationship counsellor and refined by hundreds of clients trying to find their own paths through jealousy. They range from basic (Exercise Two, Clarify Your Relationship Orientation) through challenging (Exercise Thirty-Four, Imagine Looking Through Their Eyes and Being In Their Shoes). All can be done solo, with a partner, or under the supervision of a helping professional, and all can be done before a problem emerges or in the throes of a jealousy crisis. Along the way, you will find solutions to the issues that bedevil even the most happily open relationships.
Labriola, K. (2010) Love in abundance: A counselor's guide to open relationships.
Kathy Labriola, a relationships counsellor who has worked for many years with singles, couples and groups in polyamorous and open relationships, sets forth some of the realities of alternative lifestyles: dealing with some of the common relationship- disrupters, managing jealousy, choosing compatible partners, combining BDSM with polyamory, distinguishing between sex addiction and polyamory, and much more.
Loree, K. (2022) Open deeply: A guide to building conscious, Compassionate open relationships
Therapist Kate Loree—who has practiced non-monogamy since 2003, and who specializes in treating clients who also practice non-monogamy—pulls no punches as she uses vignettes based on her own life, as well as her clients’ experiences, to illustrate the highs, lows, and in-betweens of life as a consensual non- monogamist. Interwoven with these stories are thorough explanations of how attachment theory impacts non-monogamy, how blending cutting-edge, neurobiology-informed grounding skills with effective communication skills will make even the most challenging conversations regarding non-monogamy manageable, and more. The result is a compassionate, attachment-focused template for non-monogamy that will allow readers to avoid pitfalls and find adventure while concurrently building healthy relationships.
Ley, D. (2012) Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them
This enlightening work investigates the history, incidence, and causes of a unique sexual lifestyle pursued by increasing numbers of couples. This sexual practice, a form of sexual non-monogamy, is distinguished from swinging and polyamory in that the husband rarely seeks sexual contact outside the marriage except for participation in group sex with his wife and other men, while the wife is permitted and often encouraged to pursue unrestrained sexual encounters with other men. The author includes interviews and comments from couples living the lifestyle throughout the U.S., and presents the stories in an attempt to determine the history of this sexual practice and its role in society and in relationships. He explores the psychological, social, biological, and evolutionary underpinnings of this uncommon and socially taboo behaviour in an effort to make it more comprehensible to those engaged in the lifestyle and those who are just curious.
Designer relationships may encompass: people who bond emotionally but not sexually; people who agree to be non- exclusive; single people who have occasional lovers or friends with benefits; multiple partner configurations where long-term bonds exist among all or some; partnerships in which people are kinky and that make room to explore kink.
The possibilities are limitless, and thinking about a partnership as something people can craft allows for flexibility and change. Relationships can open and close or have varying degrees and kinds of openness as circumstances demand. In the context of a designer relationship, decisions are made mutually, consciously, and deliberately. This book explains exactly how you and your loved ones can design your own life and love.
An essential guide to exploring and practicing non-monogamy, which prioritises your mental health and wellbeing. Suitable for any stage in your journey, it provides advice on understanding your 'why', setting boundaries, finding independence, cultivating self-compassion as well as practical considerations.
Are you totally great on the theory of open relationships, but feel like you don't know how it works in practice? This new book is an all-inclusive guide to beginning and maintaining your non- monogamous life, no matter where you fall under the non- monogamous umbrella. Complete with worksheets, discussion starters, examples, and hard-won lessons, this book will give you all the tools you need to be more successful in non-monogamy.
Riley, T. (2020) Ethical Cheating: Exploring the Swinger Lifestyle
Ethical Cheating explores the Swinging Lifestyle, which characteristically includes couples, who swap or share partners. Many people outside of the lifestyle define swinging as cheating while participants within the lifestyle see it differently.
While our society is structured around monogamy, consensual non-monogamy is more common than you think. Statistics show that while 90% of people expect monogamy, infidelity is as high as 70% of all relationships. We expect monogamy, but we can’t maintain it; we cheat anyway. Whether it’s emotionally, physically, or both. Ethical Cheating explores how to have the best of both worlds. With consensual non-monogamy, there is sex outside the primary relationship and it’s not cheating.
Sex at Dawn challenges conventional wisdom about sex in a big way. By examining the prehistoric origins of human sexual behavior the authors are able to expose the fallacies and weaknesses of standard theories proposed by most experts. This is a provocative, entertaining, and pioneering book.
Irrefutably shows that what is obvious—that human beings, both male and female, are lustful—is true, and has always been so. A controversial, idea-driven book that challenges everything you (think you) know about sex, monogamy, marriage, and family. A wonderfully provocative and well-written book which completely re-evaluates human sexual behaviour and gets to the root of many of our social and psychological ills
Scoats, R. (2021) Understanding threesomes: Gender, sex, and consensual non-monogamy
Interest in sexual threesomes is significant, but how much do we really know about them? Why do people engage in them? What influences people’s interest? And what are the longer term ramifications of a threesome? This book explores these questions and more; contextualising the findings in relation to wider norms of gender, sexual behaviour, and relationships.
Drawing upon more than 50 interviews and 200+ qualitative surveys this book offers a rich and in-depth analysis of contemporary threesome behaviours. The findings suggest that threesomes are a complex and multi-faceted sexual behaviour. A behaviour which simultaneously resists and maintains norms of monogamy, serves important roles and functions for individuals and relationships, and is both highly desirable but potentially risky.
Taormino, T. (2008) Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships - from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.
Veaux, F. and Rickert, E. (2014) More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
Can you love more than one person? Have multiple romantic partners, without jealousy or cheating? Absolutely! Polyamorous people have been paving the way, through trial and painful error. Now there's the new book More Than Two: A practical guide to ethical polyamory to help you find your own way.
For anyone curious about open relationships, here is a valuable handbook from an expert in love, sex, and communication. Relationship therapist Susan Wenzel--who is in an open marriage herself--delivers skillful advice on how to navigate the complex emotional landscape of multi-partner relationships, from polyamory to swinging.
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Well…….
I bought this as a surprise for t.f.m.v (the future Mrs Vicar) not really knowing anything about the sonic stuff apart from they make toothbrushes out of it and it is supposed to feel like cunnilingus and, even though I personally have never experienced being given cunnilingus and there was neither a bristle or flappy bit in sight, I thought why not?
We had a child and commitment free evening and were looking forward to some very much wanted uninhibited naughtiness and kink, so I decided (in a really manly way) that I needed to build a bathroom cabinet, a 45 minute job, then have a bath before leading t.f.m.v upstairs and showing her the path to heaven.
Three hours later I had just cleaned the last of my blood from the slightly wonky but perfectly useable cabinet and returned downstairs to find t.f.m.v asleep on the settee, notepad and pen beside her and documentaries about women who had “not” gotten away with killing their husbands playing on a loop.
I took the opportunity to do some of that positive suggestion stuff I had recently learned about in a copy of Woman’s Own that I had come across whilst waiting for a new glass eye at the local Taxidermists and whispered “You are a very lucky girl” into her ear several times before waking her.
Needless to say I was a little surprised and disappointed when she awoke that not only had the suggestion stuff clearly not worked but also, that even though it was only 11pm, she was grumpy, complained of being tired and was completely and selfishly uninterested in my description of how I built the cabinet and cut my fingers.
We had a cup of tea and a small slice of Lemon Drizzle and then I rushed upstairs with the concept in mind of a fiendishly good plan that would not only warm the cockles of her heart but might get me a few brownie points too, cos I suspected that, for some reason I couldn’t fathom, I was in the doghouse.
A quick shower, a double dab of Joop in all the right spots, and I gently called downstairs to her “Oi! are you coming to bed or what?” Moments later I heard the downstairs bathroom door slam close and knew I had a couple of minutes.
Before building the cabinet, I had unpacked Lelo from its very posh box and put her on charge, so I unplugged her, hid her beside the bed, laid an extra sheet (t.f.m.v has a wonderful talent for squirting), put the pillows in a V, Chris de Burgh on Alexa and lay naked and provocative waiting for the rhythmic thud of her dainty footsteps as she trudged upstairs.
To my disappointment, she selfishly and unappreciatively bypassed the upstairs bathroom and new cabinet, having brushed her teeth downstairs, only just giving me time to perfect my 1970’s album cover pose as she opened the bedroom door.
Even without the Stetson hat, thick moustache and white tiger on the bed beside me, I reckoned I probably still looked proper sexy.
Laid full length, legs crossed keeping my manhood provocatively out of sight, my arm bent holding my head in place and the leopard print fluffy pillow against my chest is always a great pose.
I suspect that it was the pleasantness of the surprise that got the better of her as all she could do was say “Really?”
Unperturbed, I held out a blindfold that I had cleverly concealed on the end of my finger and smiled suggestively as she huffed and began removing her pink velour.
Moments later t.f.m.v was laid naked against the pillows with an expression on her face that said “Get on with it or else” and I was thinking that if I had actually followed the instructions in order and built piece 4 before piece 6 I could have saved half an hour on the cabinet.
I reached over and began to apply the blindfold, the building sense of eroticism and excitement only spoiled by the pulling of her hair and getting it caught in the elastic, my quick “Fuck! Fuck!” soon de-escalated the situation and t.f.m.v was finally ready for her very special journey.
I walked to the bottom of the bed and placed my hands around both of her ankles.
Palms and fingers spread apart applying light pressure, being careful not to tickle as I traced the hardness of her shins and wonderful curves of her smooth calves.
Feeling and caressing her skin with slow gentle circular strokes, allowing my hands to run without friction, creating unrushed pleasing sensations intended as much to relax as excite as my attention travelled to and behind her knees.
After walking around the bed, I transferred all my attention to her left leg, moving past the knee my touch travelled up the outside of her thigh, traced along her hip to her belly, I leaned forward and kissed her cool dry skin leaving a small wet trace before catching it with the tip of my fingers as they travelled back down the inside of her thigh back to her knee.
I gently gestured with a touch behind the knee and she allowed me to bend her leg, spreading the thigh and opening her womanhood to my view.
I briefly touched her most intimate place, feeling a warmth and a wetness before walking around the bed and repeating the tracing and gesturing with her right side.
I opened her right leg and held her in place for a few moments taking in both the beauty and vulnerability of her nakedness.
Her dark hair framing her now slightly nervous face, the line of her neck and slope of her shoulders. Her ample breasts creating a curve Henry Moore would have been envious of and her wonderful, now erect, nipples adding to the landscape of mother nature at her very best.
As my gaze passed to her tummy, I saw her breathe, a single slow breath in and out and thanked all the gods and smiled knowing that, even though I am unworthy, for some reason they and she have chosen me, I had to lean forward and kiss her. T.f.m.v responded and I almost lost myself in her, my hand travelled automatically to her pussy and as I gently stroked her she gasped.
I pulled away from her and retrieved Lelo, as I got back onto the bed I lifted t.f.m.v’s hand and let her hold the soft pliable device. As she felt its pebble-like shape, I could see puzzlement on her face and I smiled in anticipation as I took Lelo back and switched her on.
I was not sure what to expect, a hiss of air and bright light announced it was working, I put it to t.f.m.v’s clitoris and her response was instantaneous. Her body jerked and spasmed, she gasped and drove herself back into the bed clutching the sheets. I moved Lelo to her labia, touching the skin there gently but then applying more pressure, the hissing noise changed to a low rasping and I found it almost impossible to keep Lelo in one place as t.f.m.v could not keep still. Her hips raising, legs opening and closing, her bottom was buried deep into the mattress, her breaths were coming in short sharp gasps and I knew that she was already building to orgasm.
I pulled Lelo away from t.f.m.v and was immediately told “No”.
I quickly reapplied it but this time on the entrance to her vagina which was slippery, warm and wet.
“Up” came the gasped instruction.
I lay between t.f.m.v’s legs and raised Lelo back to her Labia and watched as the first trickle of her cum began to flood the drawsheet. Careful to leave Lelo exactly where it was, I moved up the bed and knelt beside t.f.m.v. My erection touching her breast I reached out and removed the blindfold just in time to see her eyes roll up into their lids and her aura expand.
I love to watch and feel my lady cum, not just the actual physical escape of liquid but the whole experience, it is pure, beautiful and uplifting, and it is where I truly see “her”. A shimmering sliver of light surrounded her and as wave after wave of orgasm devoured her whole body. I looked and saw deep inside her soul, no filters, no inhibitions, nothing to prove or hide, just her, the woman I love more deeply than I thought possible, as innocent, vulnerable and strong as anyone could possibly be.
As the orgasms subsided, I took Lelo away, put my arm under her neck and lay closer to her, holding her, feeling her body shake, feeling her breathing slow and the wetness of her perspiration against my body. I brushed her hair with my fingers and allowed her to settle a little before putting my mouth to hers. We began to kiss wetly and deeply, my movements mirroring hers, our lips touching lightly, our tongues meeting from time to time.
I moved Lelo back to the clitoris and put my hand to t.f.m.v’s throat and gently squeezed and she looked into my eyes, nothing had to be said. The trust and love she placed in me was obvious. Her choice to accept me as her master has always astounded me as she is strong, confident, intelligent, humorous and understanding but she also has the need to be owned, chastised and punished at times and I do understand this. I squeezed a little harder knowing that this would heighten her pleasure and reached down between her legs with Lelo again.
T.f.m.v gasped as the sensation on her sex changed and she anticipated and felt a new wave begin to form, I knelt up, wet my finger with precum from the end of my manhood and began to wetly trace the outline of her erect nipple, she resumed her moaning, a sound of joy, a sound of excess and exertion but most of all a sound of pleasure and then I lost her once again….
I lay my body across hers and felt her left arm immediately come around me, her nails found my back and she drove them deeply into my skin, the burn was immediate as she dragged them down from my shoulder to buttock.
This was my penance, a flagellation that I not only deserved but welcomed. The pleasure inflicted upon her had to be paid for and I was more than happy to foot the bill and leave a tip, Lelo was costing me dear and worth every penny.
T.f.m.v was in her own world and taking me along for the ride, I knew it couldn’t last much longer so I closed my eyes and concentrated on the here and now. T.f.m.v muttered something and I could not understand.
“Again” I instructed her
Another murmur I couldn’t understand. Just to be safe “What colour do you see?
“Amber” came the muffled reply
“Would you like me to carry on?”
“I don’t know” came the exhausted reply.
Feeling t.f.m.v’s wetness coat my fingers from around Lelo I knew she had come a lot so pressed a button and changed the setting, the noise of the air went from constant to intermittent and t.f.m.v began to come back, the spasms began to slow, the moaning lessened in volume and her eyes began to clear, I moved Lelo back from her clitoris to her Labia and was very gently told “No”
Discretion been the better part of valour I turned Lelo off, placing it on the bed and lay next to t.f.m.v. I put my arms around her and held her warm, clammy, beautiful body until the waves finally dissipated. Afterwards as she lay with her head on my chest I asked her to describe Lelo and her answer was simply…..”Fucking Awesome”
So that’s how Lelo got me out of the doghouse and the future Mrs Vicar’s review is quite simple, It’s Fucking Awesome.
Several words of caution though:
1. Make sure the windows are tightly closed.
2. It might be an idea to have an ambulance on standby just in case.
3. Make sure this is about the lady you are with - if you are expecting anything but blissful cuddles after a Lelo orgasm, you’re going to be disappointed.
4. When building a bathroom cabinet follow the instructions, just trying to follow the picture on the front of the box can lead to time consuming and painful mistakes.
5. Lelo, when placed against the body in a certain way can sound like the lovechild of a two stroke engine and The Phantom Raspberry Blower of old London Town. It is not a loud sound but if you have people in the next room and the walls are paper thin either send them to the pictures or put them into a home depending on their ages.
6, T,f,m,v has decided that she might need a Lelo for the car, another for work and another for the gym. Apparently, the supermarket can “get a little boring too” and I have not to forget when the dog goes to the vets. Good job there is 5% off at the moment, I wonder if I could buy shares? It might be cheaper.
Anyway we still have 6 setting to explore. I have no idea how it works technically, no idea what it does or how it does it but I’m bloody glad I bought one.
B.T.W. She quite likes the cabinet.
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Please comment below with your own experiences with clit suckers, clitoral vibrators more generally or any of the wonderful products from the Lelo range which you can see by clicking here. DIY tips on bathroom cabinets also welcome.
]]>So a long-term project for us personally to use and review all the Tenga Eggs :) Read the blog to see our rankings so far.
We've just started and will gradually add to this blog as we go. Overall, we love Tenga Eggs but we can already see they differ a lot. It's confusing to know which to buy so we will share our thoughts. Hopefully one day we will have the full set. Click here to see the full Tenga Egg collection.
]]>So a long-term project for us personally to use and review all the Tenga Eggs :)
We've just started and will gradually add to this blog as we go. Overall, we love Tenga Eggs but we can already see they differ a lot. It's confusing to know which to buy so we will share our thoughts. Hopefully one day we will have the full set. Click here to see the full Tenga Egg collection.
This will keep changing as we try more but for now...
1. Tenga Shiny Egg
2. Tenga Wavy 2 Cool Edition
3. Tenga Cloudy Egg
Well, I think we might have started with one of the best ones! It was amazing! We did check some other reviews and the Shiny scored highly. Mrs B just loved it on my cock. The design doesn't really feel like the design in the picture. It is more like several big spots which if positioned correctly feel amazing just below the glans and you can really feel as it slides up and down. I think the Shiny is especially good for couples as Mrs B really could manipulate it and feel the pressure points on my cock. Absolutely huge thumbs up! Also we've used a few times and although the shape has deteriorated a touch it still works. 5/5
First time using a new egg in ages and realised we missed it. The Tenga Wavy is one of the classic designs and it felt really good. Relatively thin and transparent so really got the sensation of wanking with hand with extra pleasure. Looked great as well. But the kicker is of course the menthol lube. At first didn't feel much but soon it started to kick in and a wonderful soothing feeling along length of cock. Really recommended this for something different.
The picture shows the inside pattern with it turned inside out on my thumb. Of course it stretches.....all....the way down!
We also swapped between the Tenga Wavy Egg and Tenga Spiral. It was interesting comparing. The Spiral is four times the price and not disposable so a very different product of course. In simple terms the Tenga Spiral felt more like fucking somebody with my cock in a pussy while the Tenga Egg felt more like getting a very sensitive hand job. The Spiral is a lot more substantial, heavier, thicker etc. which gives a different feeling. Hard to choose - we like both and switching between them. Hard to go wrong with any Tenga product.
After trying the Shiny we were excited to try another and picked the Cloudy, also from the hard boiled range. It has received great reviews elsewhere as apparently it is the thickest and most intense. Well it was certainly a bit thicker and the feeling very different from the Shiny. It sort of envelopes your cock more and you feel the pressure all the way down the shaft in a different way. It did feel really great but not quite as intense for couples play as the Shiny. Mrs B felt a bit more distant from my cock. I tried alone a bit and loved so reckon this is good fun for solo egg beaters :) 4.5/5
We think me might try one of the normal non-hard boiled eggs next but let us know below if you have any requests or your own thoughts on any of the Tenga Eggs. You don't have to show your real name and email address will not show.
]]>We had a review recently for a Fleshlight masturbator from a couple who had enjoyed it together. Fleshlights are usually bought by single men so this got us thinking "Are Fleshlights good couples sex toys?" Ditto Tenga, Satisfyer and other brands of male masturbator toys.
]]>Lots of sex toy websites have a section for couples but lots of the products are just the standard stuff that a man or lady might buy and use alone - Doxy wands, dildos, vibrators etc. Pretty much any sex toy or BDSM item works for couples play one way or another although some more obvious than others. One of our favourite is a wand massager like a Doxy or cheaper alternative - they are usually categorised as ladies toys for solo play or for couples with the man using on the lady, especially in a BDSM contact, but they work great the other way around too. I love teasing Mr B on the tip of his cock or around his balls and arse with my Le Wand.
A couples sex toy might be defined as something that can only be enjoyed together and is designed for that purpose. Vibrating cock ring, Strap-ons, remote eggs, etc. fit the bill but the most popular sex toys for couples right now seem to be things like the Satisfyer Partner couples vibrator. We've just got the Satisfyer Partner Whale to test out and review and it looks amazing especially for just £24.99! The thin arm fits inside the lady during penetration, with the thicker arm resting on the clit. Both vibrate independently so the lady and the man feel the buzz during sex. Watch this space for more....
Fleshlights are masturbation toys and no doubt mostly bought by men for solo play. Nothing wrong with that of course, but we think couples might be missing a trick.
A rabbit vibrator, wand or clit sucker is often bought by a lady for solo play but we all know how much fun couples can have with these and Fleshlights are just the same. I love just watching Mr B. play with a masturbation toy solo and I love even more using one on him - controlling the pace and pressure and watching his face squirm with joy.
Fleshights and other masturbators generally come in two forms - classic realistic ones that look like a vagina, and are designed to have a flesh-like feel, and non-realistic that can have all kind of shapes and designs. Fleshlight also has a Fleshlght Girls series modelled on real porn stars that are really popular. The one above is based on Maitland Ward and is one of our big sellers. Personally I prefer the non-realistic style like the Fleshlight Flight Commander Masturbator below, especially for couples, but each to their own.
The other great thing about Fleshlghts is that they make vagina masturbators and anal masturbators. Back to the couple of recently reviewed a Fleshlight, they had used the anal Mia Malkova from the Fleshlight Girls range. Not every lady likes anal and this is a great way for couple to experiment and simulate the feeling. Click and check the review but - "mind blowing - simulates anal sex extremely well. My wife and I enjoyed it immensely as an alternative to actually anal." There is also the Fleshjack Boys range for those men wanting to simulate male anal and those ladies that want to see them try.
Any masturbation toy is good for couples but we do love the little Tenga Eggs! Lots of people have never heard of Tenga so have a look at our Tenga blog if you want to find more but they have an innovative quirky range of products from Japan focused on masturbation toys. The Tenga Egg is the cheapest and quirkiest of them all! :) Click and browse the range.
The good thing about about Tenga Egg masturbators is that they are thin and fit to the penis a bit like an extremely thick condom. So when I move it up and down it is a bit like a normal hand job and I get the close contact - much more personal than a Fleshlight but still very different and more fun than normal wanking. I love seeing Mr. B's face as I play around with the different positions. I enjoy other silicone type cock sleeves as well but the Tenga Egg is just so much fun and so many to try that are all different! And yes they stretch all the way down the shaft if you are wondering.
Our best selling sex toy is one just for the couples - the Double Penetrating Vibrating Cock Ring with Bunny Teaser. We've sold so many of these and hard to find a better value sex toy for couples. Both get a lot of pleasure and a great way to start small and slowly for those interested in anal or perhaps wanting to try double penetration but not wanting to involve another man :)
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A little guest post from Debbie of orgasmicways.com, a great new adult social media platform well worth a visit, on her journey creating and playing sex games, especially BDSM sex games, with her partner Pavel...
....so, I went into at least ten sex shops, to find the perfect game. Remember, this was 20 years ago, so online purchasing wasn’t really heard of yet. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find any suitable game. There was very little on offer, and from what there was, nothing seemed right. So, the only solution I could come up with was to make one myself. And what a day we had playing it!
]]>A little guest post from Debbie of OrgasmicWays.com, a great new adult social media platform well worth a visit, on her journey creating and playing sex games, especially BDSM sex games, with her partner Pavel...
I was around 17, when I purchased my first Sex Game. I had a holiday planned, with my boyfriend at the time, and as we had just gotten into sex, we were both very eager to experiment.
I had travelled for over an hour with intent to purchase a game in Sluis, a small village located in Holland. I wanted a game that would inspire us to try different things, experiment a bit and get over the initial lingering shyness.
So, I went into at least ten sex shops, to find the perfect game. Remember, this was 20 years ago, so online purchasing wasn’t really heard of yet.
Unfortunately, I couldn’t find any suitable game. There was very little on offer, and from what there was, nothing seemed right. So, the only solution I could come up with was to make one myself. And what a day we had playing it!
That is when the seed was planted. Fast-forward 15 years and I had created many games for many people.
Then I met my partner Pavel. We were only a few weeks together, when I made my first game for him. I have to say, we were already exceptionally kinky, with a bit of power play, but nothing compared to what we got into after. For sure we were destined to practise BDSM, but things definitely accelerated since that day.
But it wasn’t until Covid struck, that we decided to share those games with the world and Orgasmic Sex Games was born. We had so much fun taking pictures and putting everything together.
We had a draft of the first game ready within a week. Oh boy, was that the easy part! Building an Adult Social Media Platform, now, that was a little bit harder, and is a subject for later.
One of my favourite games is Hailey and the Psycho Therapist. This is a BDSM Doctor-Patient role-play which you simply act out, step by step. The dominant (doctor) is always in charge and although he follows the role-play, he still decides which medical tests and examinations he will perform.
The Throne is one of our more tantric and romantic games. The scene is on a footrest, table or any raised object you have available. It’s perfect if for the ‘not so adventurous’ couples who wish to connect, extend the love-making and learn a few new moves. Even for the classic BDSM’er, it can be a nice change! For once, the Dominant might not be the one choosing the sex positions!
There is also The Vanilla Cream Party, which is the first game we ever made. It is playful, competitive, fun and kinky, mixed up with chocolate, cream, grapes, blindfold and….toiletrolls! If you want to laugh, connect and end up in a fuck-fest, then this is the game for you. It is suitable for anyone, who truly loves every aspect of sex.
My biggest pride is The Weekly Sex Spice, a Subscription to a kinky idea, every week. There are suggestions and tips on butthole chocolates, bondage-games, sperm-ice-cubes, car sex, sadistic suggestions…it is so versatile and adaptable to any relationship you are in whether it’s Femdom or Domsub.
We have games for wwingers, Christmas games, Easter games and soon to come a selection of BDSM manuals.
All of our games are digital, which means you access them through an online subscription. So you can play pretty much the minute you purchase one. Yes, even tonight! So what are you waiting for?!
What makes the Orgasmic Sex Games the most unique, is the interactive element.
You can post your naughty pictures on our kink-positive Adult Social Media Platform, which allows full nudity and embraces BDSM. We even have a special Orgasmic Sex Games group!
So, if you are in any type of the way kinky, experimental, curious, playful or adventurous, then OrgasmicWays.com is the Website to check out.
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]]>We recently had a bit of fun with about twenty swinging friends, ranging from late 20's up to late 50's, going through turn-on's and turn-off's. We thought we'd share the results - it's a pretty liberated group of people but amongst the kink lots of common sense vanilla answers. Guys - what the hell is it with socks in bed?! :)
Before reading more try this yourself....write down 2 or 3 things you find a turn-on and 2 or 3 that are a turn-off. How much do you have in common with a large group of swingers?!
]]>We recently had a bit of fun with about twenty swinging friends, ranging from late 20's up to late 50's, going through turn-on's and turn-off's. We thought we'd share the results - it's a pretty liberated group of people but amongst the kink lots of common sense vanilla answers. Guys - what the hell is it with socks in bed?! :)
Before reading more try this yourself....write down 2 or 3 things you find a turn-on and 2 or 3 that are a turn-off. How much do you have in common with a large group of swingers?!
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Well you might think with a bunch of swingers there would lots of comments on physical appearance - big boobs, big cock, curvy bum etc. - but nope very few. Us swingers are not such a shallow bunch! :)
The most common answers centred more or intelligence, sense of humour, charm and generally being a decent person. The old adage that the brain is the most important sexual organ holds true even for swingers and if any of you have been on say Fabswingers.com you will well understand this. Even for club-goers, you might just wander into a dark orgy room, but most still want a little chat and connection before playtime.
Oral sex featured often of course and not many of us don't like that. Men particularly get turned on by eye contact while receiving a blow-job. However, not many ladies mentioned this specifically as one of their big turn-ons - kissing, nibbling and generally sensual foreplay comes very high on the list.
Some others...and ladies seem much more expressive than men :)
Men - nails in back, bums and thigh high boots, role play, vintage lingerie, neck and ear kisses and nibbles, sexy lingerie, giving full body massage, squirting, filthy talk.
Ladies - ear nibbling, anal fingering, watersports, shirt and boxers, stimulating conversation, naughty twinkle, rope, nice eyes, naughty talk, knowing I've turned somebody on and they want me, watching and hearing a lady orgasm, doggy style, twinkly eyes, being slowly undressed while having neck kissed, when a man involuntarily moans with pleasure when I'm doing something, a man who knows what he is doing with toys and goes for it.
OK there is was a universal no-brainer here and it is surprising how many have had bad experiences, male and female. Of course it is bad smells, bad breath and poor general hygiene! So brush your teeth, buy some deodorant and make sure you have a good wash down below :) It so obvious really but you can lead a horse to water...
A close second was having no sense of humour and personality along with just being selfish. So many people are very-self centred when it comes to chat and this spills over in sex in many cases. People find me me me sex a big turn-off.
Smoking also a big turn-off for most and not surprisingly scat. A few others...
Men - non-trimmed down below, loud behaviour, drugs, using spit as lube, rimming (surprising as many like), heavy make-up, swearing, arrogance, being pushy, extreme pain, bad attitude, a lady who doesn't know what she wants, poor choice of underwear, sounding (not many get turned on by that!), septum piercing.
Ladies - gratuitous cock pics, hairy toes, no foreplay, text talk, hun, babe, over confidence/cocky, arseholes that couldn't fuck properly if they tried, socks on in bed, overtly muscular, being told I am going to be made to gag or face fuck, smelly cock, being disrespected or degraded. feet, gags, bellybuttons, going straight for my clit, calling me demanding names such as whore, bitch, slut
Well a group of swingers, so most get turned on by threesomes, foursomes and the idea of taking part in group orgies, even if hard to do for many or perhaps wouldn't actually try.
The whole BDSM thing naturally has a place. Lots of people get turned on by various variations of being tied down and restrained - including the men! However, can also be a big turn-off. Fake doms and people who want to disrespect and degrade ladies watch out.
Man - feet against chest as I suck them, me tied in a chair while women have sex in front of me, group of oiled up men and women rubbing all over eachother, being tied down and blindfolded, being submissive while dressed in ladies clothing, being touched and played with outside, watching a women have sex while she looks just at me, fantasy of being tied and teased for hours
Lady - being called "good girl" and "own you" but only from select people, thinking about being tied and subjected to pleasurable pain.
Did you have any of the above in your top 2 or 3? Would love to hear of more in the comments (you can type and name and your email won't show.)
One thing - did you focus on what turns you on when looking and thinking of others? Or did you focus on what you like having done to you? I didn't specify and it was interesting seeing which people answered in either way. No right or wrong but it does say something about your sexual personality.
]]>How can I explain the connection between my nipples and my clit...just can't. Pressure and tightness on my nipples has a direct one way ticket to my clit. And the more the better, so nipple clamps are perfect, although I am sub and like pain more than most. I am not alone in that and others have used similar words. That said some just like enjoy gentle stimulation and there is a nipple clamp for that as well.
How can I explain the connection between my nipples and my clit...just can't. Pressure and tightness on my nipples has a direct one way link to my clit. And the more the better, so nipple clamps are perfect. I am sub and like pain more than most but I am not alone and others have used similar words. That said some just like enjoy gentle stimulation and there is a nipple clamp for that as well.
Mention nipple clamps and most people thing of something like this - either clips with perhaps little screws to adjust the pressure and sometimes with a chain or tweezers with a sliding adjuster. They are generally cheap, easy to find and they do what they say on the tin. A great place to start exploring for less than £10 - the ones on the left are just £3! Actually you can even start exploring with normal wooden or plastic clothes pegs, before taking the plunge, and not spend anything! (Editor - can you keep quiet please and not distract potential customers!)
Nipple clamps are incredibly flexible with all sorts of sensations and ways to use in your sexy times. The pain and pleasure can be quite extreme but doesn't have to be - I enjoy sometimes just putting them on myself while all alone and getting a gentle twinge while using a wand or clit sucker. Ditto as a couple they can be a relatively minor addition to vanilla sex - a little step and pretty painless way into a more kinky world. If you haven't tried, just wear a basic nipple clamp during normal sex and you will feel the sensations intensify.
Of course nipple clamps can also be used in a more extreme way - much tighter and as part of a BDSM experience. I enjoy being tied up, gagged, blindfolded, giving up control, feeling pain etc. and having nipple clamps on is a great part of that. I also enjoy just wearing them and having Mr B tighten and push me to my limits in terms of tightness and time they must stay on. The bastard always gives them a little extra twist!
The chain helps in all this of course if you get clamps with a chain. They look wonderful but gentle, or not so gentle, tugs at the chain once the clamps are attached gives a wonderful sharp sensation.
We like to ratchet things up sometimes by using a nipple clamp on my clit. You can use any nipple clamp as a clit clamp but there are some made just for the job with three clips like this nipple to clit tweezer clamp set.
For the more naughty among you, who enjoy threesomes or group sex, how about two ladies being clamped together? One nipple each with a chain connecting or buy two sets and connect both nipples. Then as you both squirm you can feel one another!
Most of us tend to associate nipple clamps with ladies but we all have nipples so men can enjoy the fun too! Obviously men have smaller nipples generally and not quite the same nipple to clit wiring but nevertheless many men enjoy the pain/pleasure just as much as ladies. So give it a go!
Men can use pretty much anything but clamps that require a bigger erect nipple, like the nipple vices below, are harder to attach to a man than a lady.
Then again there are some specialist nipple clamps just for men like these nipple clamps with scrotum ring. Something different for the man in your life who has everything.
People often start off with the standard clip type nipple clamps but I think nipple vices or screw nipple clamps are much better. There are lots of designs but they all rely on tightening screws so you can apply very little pressure or make them extremely tight. And they can be adjusted gradually - there is no sudden painful pinch! They look wonderful too like nipple jewellery! The only downside is that not easiest to put on and might need a bit of stimulation to get the nipple nice and proud - Mr Betty loves sucking me before putting these on. Hang on - why did I say this is a downside?!
Nipple clamps for me need to grip tight and with these you can gradually get tighter and tighter. Oh Mr B often likes to give a little extra twist even after I've said stop! 😈
Other options for a little more ouch are these stainless steel nipple pegs which really pack a punch (I've got 6 so plenty for lots of nipples and clits) or Japanese clover clips which tighten as the chain is pulled. Both are beautiful works of art as well.
I've just written a separate blog on these after trying them at the weekend (click here) but these are amazing and something different. Surprised more people don't know about them.
They not exactly beginner level, and definitely not for the faint-hearted, but they are wonderfully ouch - they are called Thai pain sticks for a reason! Nipples go between the two bars and the pressure can be adjusted by sliding the rubber loops along the bars. Mr Betty said it was like playing a musical instrument as my squeals changed as he slid then up and down! :) There is a more naughty pic of them in action in the other blog.
There is a whole range of nipple vibrators and many of those come in clamp form. Something different and many still very reasonably priced. There are also electro-stim product ranges including nipple clamps for extra buzz.
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]]>Thai pain sticks - they are called that for a reason!
Background - I'm a sub, at times I like pain, I've tried all kinds of nipple clamps and nipple pegs as well as lots of other BDSM implements. But wow these were something different and very ouchy!!!
]]>Background - I'm a sub, at times I like pain, I've tried all kinds of nipple clamps and nipple pegs as well as lots of other BDSM implements. But wow these were something different and very ouchy!!!
Imagine two metal chopsticks held together by some strong rubber bands and you are not far off. The nipple slots between the bars and the tension can be increased by sliding the rubber adjusters up and down - push towards the middle and more tension. The are actually quite beautifully made and look very innocent on first sight. They come in sets of two, one for each nipple, but I managed to get both nipples in one. Have a read here for further explanation.
Well deliciously ouch! There is a direct link from my nipples to my clit and these things made the link work extra fast! Mr Betty loved seeing my face squirm and smile at the same time.
We tried first off with the rubber adjusters at the end in the weakest position thinking that would be a gentle start. However, there is a lot of tension on the bars even in this position and when my nipple went between them I could definitely feel it! It was as strong as many nipple clamps at their strongest. When Mr Betty moved th adjusters along the pain/pleasure went off the scale. It was very gradual but starting really hurting. With one on each nipple it was wonderful. When Mr Betty took it them off there were beautiful marks left on my nipples.
Being a bit of a git Mr Betty then tried one bar on both nipples at once. This was a stretch but we managed and this hurt even more as the nipples are not in the middle but at the ends which are tighter. Glorious feeling when both in and tightened slightly. Hope you like the pic. Please give them a go as crazy value at this price around £11.
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]]>We got thinking on this topic after trying what we think is our most fun sex toy for the price - the Double Penetration Cock Ring with Vibrating Bunny Teaser. At the time of writing it is just £11.99 and way more fun that lots of toys costing two or three times as much. Just so much fun for couples and even works for solo play with a strap-on dildo, or courgette if you wish.
Before we get going on cheap toys under £10 how about under £5? It is surprising how many thing come in at this ridiculously cheap price, although the wonderful pricing at Kinky Betty's obviously helps - have a look here at the full list. Of course, lots of consumable items like condoms, lube and novelty food items come in under £5 but also lots and lots of cock rings, quite a few mini-vibrators, butt plugs and anal toys, cock sleeves, penis plugs for sounding, kegel balls etc. There are also bondage items like rope, bondage tape, masks and even nipple clamps, clit clips and floggers. Might write a blog just on this at some point.
Now, these aren't going to be the best quality items ever but great place to start if watching the pennies. Also Secret Santa and Christmas stocking fillers need never be boring again! :)
So we are a little spoilt for choice and hard to pick but here are some of our favourites - one or two might surprise you with the price!
There are quite a lot of dildos under £10 if have a browse (just enter dildo in the search box and list by price low-high.) Most are rubber or PVC but this incredible ribbed glass dildo is just £9.74! Too good to true? Nope I've tried it and the quality is wonderful. Huge thumbs up from us!
Another cheap dildo and perfect if you want to try something different - double penetration but without an extra penis! Just strap on and one man is all you need. Bargain at just £9.74
For the same great price under £10, you can get a modern USB-chargeable bullet vibrator. Perfect for on the go and no need to worry about batteries as chargeable from any USB source such as laptop or car. Oh and this is not just for ladies - you men out there can have a great time with a little bullet on that sensitive bit at the top of your cock!
Tempted by a butt plug but not sure? You really can't go wrong with this one at just £6.74! A friend tried for the first time and loved it. This one comes in small, medium and large so can just ease into things with the small if you wish, which is even cheaper! Very naughty but stylish and pretty as well.
One just for the men, this is ridiculous value at just £9.74. Cock ring, anal plug/prostate massager and little vibrating bullet to get everything shaking as well. Good for men who just want to explore a bit of gentle anal buzz as well as the plug doesn't actually need to go in - it can just vibrate away and stimulate that general area, which is very sensitive. All for the price of a couple of beers.
We love anything made of steel as so tactile and beautiful and these orgasm or kegel balls are no exception. Great for kegel exercises and internal stimulation and just wonderful to have laying around to hold and feel. And these are just £5 or so!
We sell a lot of nipple clamps in various designs and many are under £10 - click here to check - but among them there is even a set of vibrating nipple clamps which are tremendous value.
All the fun of normal adjustable nipple clamps but with extra adjustable buzz. You could easily pay the same price for similar non-vibrating nipple clamps elsewhere.
We sell many masturbators from the likes of Fleshlight, Satisfyer and Tenga from £30 up to over £100 and they are wonderful and worth the money. But if you just want to explore this type of men's sex toy you can start small with cheap Fleshlight alternative. This one here is less than £10 and will give you a great introduction. If you like it, you can upgrade to a better, more realistic version later.
Ok cheating on the last one. There are so many BDSM-related items under £10 that it is hard to know where to start. Restraints, rope, tape, nipple clamps, handcuffs, blindfolds, floggers, collars, gags, etc. - all available for under £10. I need a whole blog just on bargain BDSM goods as it's a long list but these are one of our favourite cheap items (ok another cheat as just over £10 at £10.13 but they are amazing for the price!) Stainless steel nipple pegs that look wonderful, are viciously nippy and can double as innocent paper clips!
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]]>Lots don't know about Tenga. If so, click this, have a browse, go "what the fuck!" and come back to read the rest.
We've noticed the popularity of men's masturbation toys, especially Fleshlights, since our recent blog on the taboo of men's sex toys, which seemed to strike a chord. But what about a Tenga? It's a huge brand in Japan and makes some amazing male sex toys but it is much less well-known in the UK - you men (and couples) are missing out! :)
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Lots don't know about Tenga. If so, click this, have a browse, go "what the fuck!" and come back to read the rest.
We've noticed the popularity of men's masturbation toys, especially Fleshlights, since our recent blog on the taboo of men's sex toys, which seemed to strike a chord. But what about a Tenga? It's a huge brand in Japan and makes some amazing male sex toys but it is much less well-known in the UK - you men (and couples) are missing out! :)
Tenga was founded in Japan in 2005 and focuses on male sex toys, especially masturbators. It's founder was an engineer and he set out to create something different to the mainstream. The result is wonderfully quirky, kinky and beautifully designed products, different from the standard vagina and dildo flesh-like sex toys. Japan has brought us bukkake, the Hitachi magic wand, shibari, kinbaku, nuru massage, used knickers in vending machines, etc so no surprise that Tenga has turned into a great success. One of its senior employers also holds the world record for masturbation, at something like 9 hours straight....I know, I know...that raises all kinds of questions.
The Japanese word "tenga" (典雅) means "righteously arranged and elegant" and this sort of the sums up the products. They have a wide range from basic single use masturbators for a few pounds up to high-end vibrating toys to rival Fleshlight. However, they are all designed to be elegant and stylish and not look like a vagina or be in any way erotic. This makes them less embarrassing to buy and to have lying around and easier to use for couples who may be put off by toys directly mimicking the female body.
They also make a thing of varied, quirky and interesting designs on the outside - almost like pop-art - and lend themselves to being collected and just looked at apart from the obvious use. This is particularly true of Tenga Eggs, more of which below.
Tenga started off making Tenga Cups and they look like nothing else. They are designed to be single-use masturbators, although there are now reusable models. That said, the single-use ones can be used again with careful cleaning or by using a condom. On the outside, they look like a very large soft drink bottle or can of deodorant. On the inside, they have a silicone sleeve that creates a powerful sucking vacuum. They deliberately don't look like a vagina, inside or out, but give the same effect as say a Fleshlight.
Why make something disposable? Well there is price. Some people want to experiment with something cheap and easy. Also great for travelling and disposing or even for taking to work - those naughty Japanese salarymen.
They look great too and I can imagine having a collection :) Looks aside they all have different textures and firmness.
A step up from the Tenga Cup, the Tenga Flip Hole range is reusable and comes in a clamshell design for easy washing. The great thing about these is that you don't even need a full erection to use them, so they work well for those with erectile dysfunction or who just want to be stimulated to erection. Again, they come in a variety of designs from plain black to colourful.
If you really want to splash out there is the Tenga Flip O Zero Vibrating Masturbator - the Rolls Royce of masturbators.
If you think the Tenga Cup is a bit odd, then have a look at Tenga Eggs. A cross between Kinder Eggs, a Fleshlight insert and some modern art. Cheap, disposable and wonderfully quirky. I love them.
So what in God's name is going on here? Well they are the size of a normal large egg and look great. Unwrap the plastic exterior and there is a silicone egg with an opening at one end, along with a sachet of special lube. Put the lube in the egg and then put on your penis and away you go. It's stretches the whole length of the penis and gives a great sensation. Each egg has a different feel and texture inside so try them all :)
Which Tenga Egg is best? Well I haven't tried them all but there is a great review here from from sextoycollective.com on what they call Japanese sex eggs. Easter will never be the same again.
Taking the design element even further, the Tenga Crysta and Tenga 3D Spinner ranges are works of art that look good on display. They even come with little drying stands :)
The 3D range is designed to reverse, to display the artistic interior pattern and then flip back to normal for playtime. Very clever.
Well it's not either/or - they are both great but some key differences:
- Fleshlight for an attempt at a realistic look and feel, while Tenga for something completely different and beautiful
- feel-wise they are both great and get the job done with lots of variety across the models. However, people have said Tenga is a touch more tight and perhaps Fleshlight a touch more realistic in terms of the feel of flesh
- Tenga gives you the cheap disposal option and with the reusable option you just wash the whole unit whereas with Fleshlight you need to remove the inside sleeve to wash separately
- because they tend to be a bit tighter, Tenga's also tend to be bit more noisy with tighter suction. Some won't care, some might like and some might find this difficult if lacking privacy.
Conclusion - buy both. Obviously! :)
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]]>Before getting into green sex toy ideas a quick recap on being environmentally friendly. It's a complicated equation but key aspects include:
- relatively low resources used in the production
- sustainability of the raw materials
- long life of the product
- being able to be recycled
- being biodegrade and in toxic free manner
Nothing will be perfect and something can be great in one aspect and not another. I can't begin to compare the overall environmental impact of different products over the full life-cycle but it is pretty clear some natural jute rope for bondage is much more friendly than a PVC inflatable sex doll!
Well cucumbers aside, the score card is mixed and trends over the last few years are not great in many ways but things are changing.
Overall, there has been a lot of plastic in sex toys for some time and plastic is the environmental devil - from production, to difficulty recycling, taking forever to biodegrade and having a relatively short product life. There has also been a long-trend for much more "buzz" - vibrating sex toys which typically include plastic in some form, lot of electronics and batteries. And lot of buzz and plastic usually means a relatively short product life as things wear out and go wrong - my local council has yet to introduce a sex toy recycling option :)
If anything the the trend for buzz if is getting stronger with lots of remote and app-controlled vibrating toys and interactive and virtual reality gradually getting more popular. On the plus side silicone has become the predominant material and use of plastics is much reduced.
Silicone isn't the most environmentally friendly material but it beats plastic. If you have a choice go for silicone although often silicone toys are a bit more expensive. The cheaper vibrators and other vibrating toys tend to be plastic and the more expensive silicone but not always - for example, this OMG Silicone Wand is completely silicone top to bottom and reasonably-priced.
Silicone is made from silica but still uses hydrocarbons from petroleum like plastic. It also takes a lifetime to biodegrade if it ends up in landfill. It can be recycled but requires a special process and it rarely happens. On the plus it has longer-life than plastic so less likely to end up being quickly thrown away.
Obvious perhaps, but if you go for cheaper toys, perhaps older models, often they will be powered by standard disposal batteries and people don't always realise. It's worth paying a little bit extra to get a rechargeable model - better for the environment and more convenient too.
Bioplastics are polymers made from renewable materials like starch or vegetable oils that resemble plastics - and in most cases are biodegradable. They are tiny part of the global polymer market but there is lot of research ongoing and the first sex-toy products have emerged. Try the Gaia Biodegradable Rechargeable Eco Bullet or the Gaia Biodegradable Eco G Spot Vibrator
Lots more of these sort of products will emerge I'm sure. (Now got a vision of dildos in the garden compost bin along with the potato peelings.)
Away from buzzing vibrating toys, glass is our favourite. It will last forever and is wonderfully sensual. There is also the option of temperature play, heating them up in warm water or cooling them down in the fridge before. There is the image of glass sex toys being very expensive, and some still are, but lots are very reasonably priced.
Click here to see our full glass collection but this blue glass dildo is amazing value and great quality and the glass butt plug is a work of art - both under £15.
Wood is one of the most environmentally-friendly materials and so sensual. Options are limited and hygiene issues for sex toys used internally but there are lots of wooden bondage items. We don't yet have a huge range here and they tend to be custom made but here are a couple of options - a wooden flogger and paddle.
A bit like glass, steel lasts forever and is stunning and sensual - most items are more like jewellery or works of art than sex toys! I can't imagine every throwing away but, if you want to of course, they can be recycled.
The downside of steel is that not cheap although some items are still pretty reasonably price - more of an investment in a beautiful item than buying a typical silicone dildo. Saying that plenty of times under £15 covering all kind of toys.
Click here and have a browse and perhaps you'll be surprised at the variety and price - cock rings, handcuffs, medical bondage, nipple clamps, butt plugs, dildos, kegel balls, etc.
Click here for our rope collection.
I saw this on another site, saying if you are going to buy a wand and then the Doxy Die Cast is a more eco-friendly option. Bit of a stretch but sort of get it. The body is made of metal so should last longer and easier to recycle - not sure about the other bits but nothing is perfect.
If you use your imagination there are so many things around the house that can be used to as sex toys. Please have a read of a blog we did a while ago - click here. You can even be touch kinky while saving the planet!
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]]>OK, to start with the basics, BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Masochism but liking one doesn’t mean you have to like them all. They overlap sometimes but you can, for example, like to be dominated without any bondage or SM element at all.
They are like circles of a venn diagram overlapping. You can do one or two and sometimes all three coincide in the Wild Spot! Also there are many things that are “kink” that don’t have to involve any BDSM aspect at all - for example foot fetish, watersports or swinging and swapping partners.
]]>OK, to start with the basics, BDSM stands for Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Masochism but liking one doesn’t mean you have to like them all. They overlap sometimes but you can, for example, like to be dominated without any Bondage or SM element at all.
They are like circles of a venn diagram overlapping. You can do one or two, and sometimes all three coincide in the Wild Spot! Also there are many things that are “kink” that don’t have to involve any BDSM aspect at all - for example foot fetish, watersports or swinging and swapping partners.
So often we have heard the following sorts of comments:
“I can’t stand pain so I don’t like BDSM”
“I don’t want to be humiliated so BDSM is not for me”
“Losing control scares me so I don’t want to try BDSM”
Well BDSM may not be for you, but don’t let your dislike of one aspect put you off the rest. There may be something you really enjoy if you experiment and many aspects are beautiful, sensual, pain-free and involve equality and respect.
There are different interpretations but in its simplest form bondage involves restraining or tying up a partner - with rope, ankle or wrist manacles, handcuffs, bed ties, etc. - as part of sexual activity. Even the last part if grey when you look at something like shibari (the Japanese art of tying with rope) which is about the sensual process of tying and the beauty of the finished design on the body, rather than sex itself. This is particularly true with suspension rope play. There is very little pain, if any, if done correctly and there doesn’t have to be any domination. At the beginner end of the spectrum simply tying wrists to the bed frame and having normal sex is pure bondage.
In the dom-sub dynamic one side dominates and the other subordinates and is told what to do. This doesn’t have to involve any bondage, pain, sex toys or implements whatsoever. In a lot of normal sexual partnerships one half is often slightly dominant without even labelling it. Taking it a stage further one partner is in complete control - or rather the sub allows the dom to be in complete control. The simple act of the man instructing a lady to get on her knees and give him a blow job or get in a certain position can be domination. Some people like to control and instruct and some like to be told what to do (and some like to switch between the two.) There are many stages further, even involving verbal humiliation and physical degradation, but that doesn’t have to be a feature and rarely is for most in our experience.
Sadist get pleasure from inflicting pain on others and masochists get pleasure from experiencing pain. And in a BDSM context this is sexual pleasure. It turns you on inflicting or experiencing pain. Lots dabble and are what I would call minor sadists or masochists - relatively few really enjoy and go to extremes.
Again SM doesn’t have to involve any bondage or dom-sub dynamic. It often does but it doesn’t have to - in fact the masochist may even be the one in control giving instructions! The most common form of SM activity is what is broadly termed “impact play” - getting hit, usually on the arse, with floggers, whips, crops, canes, etc. You don’t need to be restrained for that that and the masochist can even be screaming "hit me harder!" Ditto with nipple clamps during sex which many love as the pain/pleasure sensation goes straight to the genital area. It can be done in a very equal, consensual, non-restrained way.
Now there are times when two of the three overlap of course and sometimes we go full Wild Spot with all three in a fairly extreme way - tied with rope so can barely wiggle never mind move, spanked hard with a crop leaving red marks and bruises, while nipple clamps are screwed tight for extra pain, ball-gag and blind-folds so I cannot control what’s happening and am totally subordinate. I barely have a safe word and rely on Mr Betty watching my movements, especially fingers, and having the experience to know when he has reached the limit. This is us in extreme Wild Spot mode but sometimes just a little bit of one of the letters is just as good. Don’t be put off by some aspect you don’t like - start experimenting and enjoy!
You don’t have to jump in at the deep end. If you are curious, try one or more of following:
1. Wear a mask or blindfold during sex. Boring and basic perhaps but sometimes the simplest things are the best. If you haven't had sex wearing a mask before, it is is a wonderful new feeling not being able to see what goes on as other senses are heightened and it's a great kick for your partner - perhaps free to explore and enjoy new things without you seeing.
2. Bondage tape - want to try restraint but not sure about rope? Then try bondage tape to lightly restrain wrists, ankles etc. Cheap, easy, flexible, doesn't stick to the skin and easy to remove. A great way to experiment and start off.
3. Door jam cuffs - these are so simple and easy and everybody has a door they can use.
4. Wear a collar - collars have deep emotional significance for those in a dom-sub relationship and can be used for all sort of extreme play but just wearing one when you want to get into a kinky mindset is enough. No need for anything else and as time goes on, who knows you might use this a cue for more or use the collar as part of bondage restraint.
5. Nipple clamps - a gentle introduction to pain. Contrary to popular opinion, don't dive in with nipple clamps themselves but get nipple vices or screw nipple clamps. These are totally adjustable and can apply anything from no pressure at all to tight excruciating pain/pleasure. They also also rather beautiful.
6. Flogger or paddle - you could try any type of impact play accessory but a flogger or paddle is a good place to start. No need to hit hard - just experiment with gentle taps. This one has soft velvety fur side as well for more sensual teasing.
7. Wax play - some may not think of dripping hot was onto the skin as something for beginners but it is not as painful as it sounds and great fun. As you progress can combine with other scenarios such as blindfolded or restrained. Just be sure to use low melting point candles - DO NOT use normal candles as you will burn the skin.
Please comment below with your own thoughts (any name will do and email will not show). How did you start in BDSM? If you want any advice pop over the to the Naughty Corner and ask away.
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Since starting kinkybettys.uk it is noticeable how many sex toys we sell to men and how many search and have an interest. We also notice back in the real world and in our swinging and friendship circles how many keep a little quiet about it. There is still something a bit taboo about men owning toys.
]]>Since starting kinkybettys.uk it is noticeable how many sex toys we sell to men and how many search and have an interest. We also notice back in the real world, and in our swinging and friendship circles, how many keep a little quiet about it. There is still something a bit taboo about men owning sex toys.
"Sex toys for men" covers a wide spectrum of course, from cheap and simple cock rings, up to sex dolls costing thousands so it is hard to generalise but, overall, there is a bit of a seedy image and men who use toys are often seen as desperate weirdos or having some kind of problem. There is a clear contrast with attitudes to ladies who use sex toys. There are a few myths out there which I will address below.
Overall men who use sex toys are not over wanking wankers although reading some of the standard product descriptions put out my toy manufacturers it is sometimes easy to see why some think that way - the Fuck Me Silly Legs Mega Masturbator 3 is a classic of the genre.
Well they are not all about wanking obviously although masturbators is a huge category and we sell more of those to men than anything else. I divide the toys into two categories - those just for men and what you might call unisex toys - including things often associated with ladies.
- Fleshlights and other vibrating masturbators like this Vibration Blow Job Masturbator from Satisfyer, some of which are realistic and some a bit more...ahem...industrial. Fleshlight is one of the most search for sex toy terms which tells you something
- Cock rings, ranging from cheap glorified rubber bands up to app-controlled luxury vibrating cock rings and beautiful steel bondage cock rings that are works of art. The ones from Oxballs are the dog's bollocks, so to speak
- Prostate massagers, special shaped dildo type toys shaped to reach the all important P-Spot
- Penis sleeves, generally made of silicon, that go, partially or fully, around the penis for masturbation or for added length or girth during penetrative sex
- Penis pumps, ranging from the basic manual pumps to much higher-end automated pumps with built-in safety features. Often sold as a means to a bigger cock they really don't make much difference to length but can add girth temporarily. More for people who need a bit of help to become erect and some extra pleasure along the way
- BDSM items like chastity cock cages or for cock and ball torture for the more squeamish
- Sex dolls, well technically not just for men as a few male sex dolls out there for ladies but it is 99% for men and the range is vast - cheap blow-up sex dolls for £10 all way up to modern realistic sex dolls with AI costing thousands
There are so many toys out there largely targeted at ladies but that work great for men as well if you are brave and kinky enough:
- Butt plugs and other anal toys of course, as we all have that part of the anatomy
- Dildos and vibrators, ditto not just for ladies
- Massage wands, perhaps more surprising but so much fun to be had with a Doxy or other wand. Can either use as it comes on your cock to masturbate or buy attachments with cock sleeves. Mrs Betty likes using our wand on me to tease
- Lots of BDSM items of course such as nipple clamps work just as well for men as ladies but you don't often see them targeted at men. Saying that I've got small nipples and attempts to put them on have failed
I would be very interested to hear what you all think on this but it seems this is broadly the case, for a whole host of reasons. Please comment below or in the Naughty Corner Chat where you will find a reference to this blog.
There was a time when all sex toys were a bit taboo for both sexes and of course they still are for ladies, to an extent. However, even in more liberated circles if a lady says she has a rabbit vibrator or a massage wand nobody will bat an eyelid but if a man says he has Fleshlight or some kind of realistic masturbator device, little warning lights may begin to flash.
A vibrator or dildo is a representation of a man's penis (sometimes very realistic as well) and is fine to use sexually. A representation of a lady's vagina used sexually seems much more seedy which is a bit unfair. More generally, especially for those with partners, ladies often see use of sex toys by their men as a sign that they are not good enough, rather than as something to complement and improve their sexual relationship. To some extent, this goes the other way too I know with men feeling threatened by ladies with sex toys. I've certainly seen many men on dating/swinging chat groups and forums be very quiet on the whole sex toy subject in "public" but tell me about all sorts of things in private.
Yep you are only using sex toys because you are a loser who can't find a lady, or a man if you are gay. Well first off, funny how this is never said about ladies - it's all rather sexy a lady using a vibrator and making herself cum, including gushing, but heaven forbid a man cumming into a Fleshlight. Please don't feel like this. Everybody goes through times without a partner and if sex toys help you feel good in the meantime then great. They may even make you a better sexual partner in the future.
Moreover, sex toys are not always a substitute for a sexual partner but can complement one. You can use a masturbation cock sleeve alone or together, for example. Or perhaps you have an interest in anal play on yourself and want to practice. You might be surprised that a future lady partner might quite enjoy exploring that with you. Anal play is not just for ladies which leads on to...
Of course first off there is nothing wrong with being gay or bi - for some this is still a stigma in itself but liking a bit of anal stimulation does not even mean you are bi. You can want a lady's finger in your arse, or tongue, and wanting to play with a small dildo or butt plug is no different. And why not go further with a prostate massager - if you like it, do it and don't worry. Perhaps a lady friend might enjoy exploring this with you. Lots of men like using toys on ladies and it is the same the other way around.
Lots of us have things that others consider extreme that we want to explore and experience. Sometimes you get lucky and can do that with others but sometimes you either need or want to do it alone. Sex toys give you an avenue to explore the weird and wonderful, kinky and extreme without harming others so go for it.
Do some things step over the line? Maybe. There are probably child sex dolls out there which would fall into the weird and troubling category and even some of the adult sex dolls raise a few questions but this is tiny portion of wonderful world of male sex toys. That aside I would say the industry does itself no favour with how some of the products are marketed with names and products descriptions that can be disrespectful to ladies. Probably the same can be said of the some of products targeted at ladies too with talk of giant cocks, etc
Well, some clearly do but it's nothing to be ashamed about. Some people have genuine medical problems and need a bit of help to enjoy themselves. Actually, whisper it quietly, but some ladies are the same - for example, not being able to have penetrative sex due to medical issues but nevertheless having a wonderful sex life doing other things.
But the vast majority of men using cock pumps or cock rings don't have any problems and just want to be a little harder, more girthy or maybe a touch longer (although don't expect much on that front for very long with a cock pump.) Cock rings especially are wonderful little things and really make a difference to hardness and girth adding to the pleasure for both partners. They are also a route in male bondage with some wonderful bondage cock rings for those who want to get a bit more kinky.
Again, the industry sometimes does itself no favours marketing cock pumps as means to get a much longer penis. I had one person asking me to recommend a cock pump and then inquiring as to whether if he used it regularly he could gain 2 inches - ummm perhaps not.
First off, nothing wrong with being gay or a cross-dresser although some see it that way. However, as a men, liking to wear something sexy like lacy pants or tight fitting shorts and shirt to show off your body means nothing of sort.
At a swinging club or party, or evening privately for two, the default for ladies to feel sexy is some lovely lingerie, perhaps suspenders, a body stocking or basque. For men, it is wear a suit or "smart casual." Well if you feel fine in a suit go for it but it's the last thing I want to wear if it cost hundreds of pounds and is likely to be crumpled in a corner within 30 minutes! Men can embrace their sexy side too and still be masculine and straight. And if you haven't tried lacy men pants, they feel wonderful and look incredibly sexy.
Whatever your interests just go for it and enjoy. There is so much fun out there and life is too short to miss out. We have created a little "for men collection" as a taster but just browse the menus or search away via the search box.
Also really interested to hear your thoughts on this topic so comment below (you don't have to put your real name and email won't show) or pop over to the Naughty Corner Chat to discuss.
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No this is not a slang for the man in your life but what we like to call the wonderful clitoral sucking vibrators that have popped up in recent years. They are wow wow wow! Everybody knows about rabbit vibrators or magic massage wands but talking to friends it is surprising how many have never heard of or used a clit sucker. For me, it is my favourite go to solo toy when I want a quick powerful orgasm and it also works great as a couples sex toy as well.
]]>No this is not a slang term for the man in your life but what we like to call the wonderful clitoral sucking vibrators that have popped up in recent years. They are wow wow wow! Everybody knows about rabbit vibrators or magic massage wands but talking to friends it is surprising how many have never heard of, never mind used, a clit sucker. For me, it is my favourite go to solo toy when I want a quick powerful orgasm and it also works great as a couples sex toy as well.
Some people call these toys Womanisers, as it was one of the first brands to make them, but Satisfyer has a huge range across all price points and there are some wonderful high-end clit suckers from Lelo. There are some new variations but they all sort of look like an ear thermometer - good for hiding from the kids.
There are some differences in how the products work and the shape but essentially they all use some kind of air pulse or sonic wave to blow and suck to stimulate oral sex...and to be honest they go way beyond oral sex in many ways.
Clit suckers are a perfect sex toy for solo play and one of my go to toys when I want a quick orgasm, more so than my Doxy wand. It helps being a little wet first but just stick them on your clit, switch on and let the fun begin. Some have power and pattern adjustment settings but basically switch on and go. If you get in the right spot they quickly form a suction around the clit and the feeling is amazing. It does feel like great oral sex with the sucking and feeling of air on clit but more intense and they can quickly make me orgasm.
They are almost too good. When the suction seal is tight mine is hard to switch off. Twice now I've got it stuck! When in full flow and on the cusp of orgasm or just after, I can't help but gripping tight with my thighs to try and relieve the pressure on my clit. The trouble is that the off switch often then becomes hidden and without turning off there is no way to break the seal. I know - a great problem to have! :) I would share a video but might get banned by Google!
Yes yes yes! I love using alone but also with Mr Betty. Sometimes I just use myself after a long session or he uses on me (and helps turn it off!) but you can also use as part of sex together. It takes some doing depending on the shape of each toy but you can have the clit sucker on your clit and your partner performing oral sex on other parts - so double oral! Also can have the clit sucker on clit while penis is penetrating as normal.
We recently had a foursome and combined two ladies with double ended dildo and a clit sucker on the other lady's clit. The possibilities are endless.
There is also the famous Tracey's Dog type toy which combine clit sucker and G-spot vibrator - Satisfyer Pro 4 Couples is a great option. You can use alone but wonderful during sex for mind-blowing stimulation for both.
No Mr Betty, the answer isn't you! Well they are all wonderful and gone are the days of one or two choices but here are some of our favourites across the price range.
Satisfyer has a range of clit suckers but this is one of the old flagships. Lots of functions, UBS-rechargeable and great value mid-price. Hard to go wrong with this one.
Satisfyer Luxury Pret A Porter Clitoral Massager
Just a stunning high-end clit sucker. Beautiful to look at, hold and use, with a wide range of pattern selections and power levels. Worth every penny. Also one of the larger models on the market.
Lelo makes wonderful high-end sex toys and their clitoral massagers are no exception. If you really want to splash out and want high-end power go the for Lelo Sila but this is a great Lelo product.
A great value entry type clit sucker. Bargain price but still rechargeable and great design.
Slighty different design and function to the normal clitoral suction toy. It includes two small tongues and several miniature hairs that physically stimulate the clit combined with the suction.
Just a wonderful toy for couples or for solo play. Part clit sucker and part G-spot vibrator. Wonderful fun for both if inserted before sex and with all the expected style and value of Satisfyer.
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Mrs Betty and I had a wonderful session yesterday afternoon testing our some of the Kinky Betty's products. It's a tough job but somebody has to do it I know.
Up for fun were the Le Wand, The Cottelli Black Zip Up Body with Cold Shoulder and the Bunny Teaser Vibrating Rabbit Cock Ring, Summery on all three - amazing, beautiful and a bit dangerous! :)
]]>Mrs Betty and I had a wonderful session yesterday afternoon testing out some Kinky Betty's products. It's a tough job but somebody has to do it.
Up for fun were the Le Wand, The Cottelli Black Zip Up Body with Cold Shoulder and the Bunny Teaser Vibrating Rabbit Cock Ring. Summary on all three - amazing, beautiful and a bit dangerous! :)
Oh four really as we used the S8 Vanilla Flavoured Lube, which at £3.99 is tremendous as really great quality. I want to try all the other flavours - salted caramel lube anyone!
Well what I can say about Mrs Betty wearing this stunning outfit. I was greeted by her wearing this along with hold up suspenders and high heels and she looked amazing. I wasn't sure at first seeing online but in the flesh it has wow. It is wet look and clings to the body in all the right places. It is under the plus size range but actually depending the size would fit anyone from a size 12 upwards. Paired with stockings it worked really well, although might try with some latex stockings at some point.
Anyway, the defining feature is the two-way zip that runs down the middle of the outfit, all the way from the neck, down the front, ummm.....underneath and finishing in the small of the back. For anybody that sees a zip and wants to undo it this is perfect!
....and I did - well just the important part so great access when Mrs Betty bent over the kitchen table. It was a wonderful view and fair to say I got a little carried away with myself. It was only afterwards that I realised that as well as fucking the gorgeous Mrs Betty I had been fucking a big zip as well and my cock looked worse for wear. Next time I will unzip a little more!
Zip horrors aside we really recommend this outfit. Perfect for a club or party or just for two when want to dress up in something special.
After the little appetiser and with a sore cock we finally had the chance to properly try out the amazing full-size rechargeable massage wand from Le Wand. We were not disappointed - wow wow wow!
OK this is not a cheap wand but it is worth every penny. We wanted a high quality replacement for our mains Doxy wand and didn't want to spend quite as much as the Lelo Smart Wand 2. The Le Wand is perfect. It is as powerful and more versatile than a standard Doxy and as elegant and high quality as the Lelo while being cheaper.
First off it just oozes style and quality from the moment you get your hands on the box. The packaging is beautiful and when you get it out the box it looks stunning and you just want to hold it.
It is around the same weight as a standard mains-powered Doxy, if anything a touch heavier, but feels much easier to hold given the shape and balance. The Doxy often feels like a two handed job but holding Le Wand with one hand is a breeze. We worried about the power comprise but really no need - at the top end there is really just a tiny or no difference and Mrs Betty, who is used to very powerful wands, was soon squealing. Oh yes the great thing about Le Wand are the different vibrating patterns. Lost count as to how many but some of them are amazing and got the "roll back eyes" treatment from Mrs Betty. The large head and flexibility to move in all directions also helps - better than the standard Doxy. Actually tried on my cock as well and definitely enough to make me cum if so wished. So overall Le Wand is fantastic and would be our recommendation for a high-end rechargeable wand massager! (Note currently sold out but will get new supplies in next few days so order now to reserve yours!)
Le Wand also makes a smaller, more travel friendly model that is 10 inches, so a bit smaller, and cheaper, but very similar stylish design. Sure it must be a winner as well! Click the picture for a closer look in store.
Now after the....ahem....zip incident I should have been careful with the next stage but we just had to try this new cock ring after it sitting there lonely and unused for a couple of weeks. Overall glad we did as it was incredible! Fantastic pleasure for both of us and I challenge you to find a more pleasurable toy at this price - if any ideas please comment below as we want to try!
So this is a cock ring with a difference. The cock ring itself is a good one - stretchy and flexible but really tight - but combined with the bunny ears with the little vibrating bullet and the small anal dildo it is a winner. For me it felt great with the cock ring on, although needed lube for comfort, and the vibrating ears gave an extra buzz. For Mrs Betty it was orgasmic. The cock ring made me almost instantly and very noticeably thicker first off. Then the bunny ears vibrating against her clit as I fucked her. And then the dildo inside her arse and moving in and out at the same time. Really a triple combo of double penetration and clit vibrator. Strongly recommend this to any couple and, if a little cautious on anal, the dildo part is relatively small and thin so not too much of a challenge, provided lots of lube.
Now the only problem is the zip incident. Putting a tight cock ring on a cock that has already been savaged by a zip wasn't the best idea. It was worth but still suffering a tad a few days on! :)
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So in conclusion we loved all three items but note to self - don't fuck a zip and if you do then definitely don't follow up with a tight cock ring and more fucking.
Please comment away below with your own silly sex-toy fails or pop over to the Naughty Corner Chat to discuss
]]>From it’s humble beginnings at the Hitachi magic wand for normal massage there are now so many wand massagers! And Doxy is used like Hoover with the brand and the product being intertwined. Just be careful trying a Dyson on your clit or cock although that is an idea.....
]]>From it’s humble beginnings as the Hitachi magic wand for normal massage there are now so many wand massagers! And Doxy is used like Hoover with the brand and the product being intertwined. Just be careful trying a Dyson on your clit or cock although that is an idea.
Here in the UK lots of people talk about Doxy as if something special and unique but actually Doxy is relatively new and sort of a copy of the original Hitachi magic wand from Japan - so many things kinky come from Japan! Shibari, bukkake - say no more. Anyway Hitachi started making magic wand massagers for general health purposes in the 1960’s (actually Mrs Betty just visited a chiropractor and he used a wand-like massager on her back - if only he knew) and it wasn’t long before some pervs realised there might be more sexual uses. The rest is history. Hitachi continued making it until 2013 when it decided to withdraw (oooh matron) as it felt the sexual connotations might damage it brands.
Doxy wands in contrast are relatively new and started being made in the UK in 2013 given the unavailability of Hitachi wands. They have taken over as the number one branded mains powered wand massagers in the UK.
There have been a whole host of other companies making wands, from the cheap and cheerful to the luxury, and the market is now awash with products for all tastes and budgets. You can see the whole range of wand massagers and attachments on our site if you click here but apart from Doxy, there are some beautiful wands from Lelo, like the Lelo Smart Wand, Satisfyer, California Exotic and Bswish.
It's goes without saying that wands massagers are great for solo play. In fact Mrs Betty has has an old Doxy that she has used so much it needs to be replaced or at least have the head changed. Anybody know a good online store for Doxy's?
But....it's hard to explain but the wand is not top of the list for Mrs Betty when it comes to toys to play with by herself. She actually prefers her rabbit or one of the little air powered clitoral vibrators like the Satisfyer Pro 2. If DIY playing alone she prefers a gentle clitoral stimulation or her rabbit and then she imagines having a cock inside her and closing her eyes and imagining a certain person (yes Mr. Betty)
That said, we've talked to many lady friends who swear by their Doxy wand for playing alone and love it. We know somebody who bought one recently and she hasn't left her bedroom for days.
For us the Doxy wand comes into its own when used playing as couple or in groups with others and it has the ability to push Mrs Betty (and others we've played with) over the edge with multiple orgasms and gushing. There is something wonderful about using on other people and having it used on you, exploring the different vibration patterns and taking the power level up from low to mind blowing. It really is the perfect couples toy and a great way to end a long play session or in groups when some are taking a rest :)
Mrs Betty saw a lady in a club, Chameleons in Birmingham. on her first ever visit, being driven wild with a wand. Two guys were feeling and exploring her body and one had a wand. It was mesmerising watching her body aching and the sheer joy on her face as she was teased on and off for an hour.
We have used wands a lot with others. Three cases spring to mind of giving ladies their first wand experiences and the joyous looks on their faces was wonderful. Well a bit of shock and surprise as well and not to mention a few yelps and screams. One lady went straight out and bought one for herself. The others are still stuck to the ceiling or convulsing on a bed somewhere.
So we love to use our wand on others and see their faces showing pure joy and ecstasy and hopefully the same the other way around.
Well, we are a kinky couple and the Doxy has a special place in BDSM play with us and others. Firstly, a wand can be extremely intense and almost painful if used at too high a level too quickly - so this gets into the whole pain/pleasure area of sub/dom activity and pushing limits and having control. Secondly, if a wand can be intense in normal play with bodies thrashing about in pleasure, imagine the sensation when restrained in some way and movement is restricted.
We do this in fairly basic ways with say just hands/wrists tied to bed or standing and tied to somewhere upright or more extreme with Mrs Betty completely tied up and unable to move. In such situations the sensations from the wand are incredible with the body not being able to respond to the pleasure. After one session of being made to orgasm several times while tied, Mrs Betty said "sometimes I can wriggle free but today I couldn't even wriggle an inch" - combined with wand on clit and boom.
This is part of the whole area of forced orgasm for the lady - not having control over when to orgasm or being denied and edged over a long period.
We have experimented with taping the Doxy to Mrs Betty's thigh while restrained and operating in hands free mode. This was quite something and strongly recommend. There are belts out there that can help with this type of thing like this Leather Forced Orgasm Belt.
To state the obvious perhaps, as with any BDSM of course make sure it is consensual and there is a safe word in place. Joking aside there is a real risk of friction burns with extended wand use and nobody wants a burnt clit.
Originally all wands from Hitachi and Doxy were mains powered but then various less powerful and generally smaller, lighter and cheaper alternatives popped up. There was and is a place for these but they were not the same as the full power mains alternative. Ratchet one of those up to full power and it is a different world. However, with improvements in technology for batteries and motors that is slowly changing. Still, if you want to be sure of full power then go mains and the standard entry level Doxy is great for that but the high-end rechargeable wands are now just as powerful. There aren't many of them but products like the Lelo Smart Wand 2 are fantastic. Just don't buy a £40 rechargeable and expect the same as a mains powered Doxy.
Wands are usually thought of as a toy to use on ladies but really great for men too. Poor men missing out. Mr Betty has used on himself many times to make himself cum - turning the power when placed on the little spot just beneath the head of the penis (frenulum) feels amazing and Mrs Betty loves using on a man - she especially loves using on the area between the anus and balls (perineum) on a low speed and seeing the enjoyment on a man's face. It's great combining this with a blow job (yes more please says Mr. Betty!)
Any wand works for a man of course but there is a new product just out for men - the Bodywand Men's Rechargeable Wand Massager. This includes attachments just for men - more on them below - and is shaped to make it easy for a man to use on himself.
These little beauties open a whole new world of fast-paced vibration pleasure. If you've got a wand already, a great relatively cheap way to add some more spice. There are so many different options and they fit most standard sized wands.
Now the most obvious is to get a cock sleeve one so the wand can be turned into a men's toy - ladies want to tease your man? :) But there are so many options including attachments for clit, hitting your g-spot, anal play, etc. There is even a bumpy tingle one that looks a bit like Corona virus.
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So overall wands are wonderful - give them a go! Please add your own thoughts below or in our Naughty Corner Chat
Oh yes forgot about the TV. One minor problem in the past was that the powerful mains wand interfered with TV and Mrs Betty got some funny lines appearing distorting the picture! :) Thank god those days have passed now with digital TVs.
]]>So we love sex toys and adults goods but it is surprising how much you can improvise with things around the house if you put your mind to it. And actually some of those things are as much fun and more kinky as the more expensive items we sell here at Kinky Betty’s (Editor - what the hell are you saying you idiot?!)
]]>So we love sex toys and adults goods but it is surprising how much you can improvise with things around the house if you put your mind to it. And actually some of those things can be as much fun as and even more kinky than the expensive items we sell here at Kinky Betty’s (Editor - what the hell are you saying you idiot?!)
Let’s start with an easy one. OK we all know there are so many things around the house that you use can instead of a dildo, although need to lube them up well of course. Cucumbers, bananas, courgettes etc the most obvious or even a marrow or butternut squash if so inclined. But how about a black pudding or uncut salami for a meaty treat? Harder objects are more tricky but what about a wooden rolling pin which can be lovely and smooth? Have a look around your own kitchen or garage and you might find something fun. OK not like a beautiful hand-crafted glass dildo but these things can still feel great.
This is a bit harder but lots of ladies have used an electric toothbrush, which well-targeted works wonders! There are also a plethora of vibrating small massagers designed for non-kinky uses that work as sex toys. I believe the wand which is now adored by millions for bringing mind blowing orgasms started off as the humble Hitachi massage wand for aching shoulders before morphing into the Hitachi magic wand and then the Doxy wand and a host of other specialised sexual wand massagers. These humble massagers do have risks - I remember my mum saying one Christmas morning to a group of twenty, “Oh look at my new vibrator” when opening her new wrist massager. There was eggnog everywhere from the laughter and snorting.
This is edging up the kinky scale and something we love. Tight pressure on nipples is a wonderful turn-on and sometimes enough for orgasm on it’s own never mind during sex. We have a large collection of nipple clamp sex toys including butterfly clamps and various screw clamps but sometimes you can’t beat the humble clothes peg. The tension varies hugely so need to experiment but they are cheap so experiment away - also good to add lots on and make boobs or cocks look like a hedgehog! Also these are great for being part of BDSM and setting challenges as to the number of pegs and time. Wooden clothes pegs work well but also the slightly more expensive metal ones which tend to have more grip - not as beautiful as the stainless steel nipple pegs we sell but oh so much fun. You can also use all kind of clips and clamps from DIY stores but might need some fabric to take off the rough edges.
Rubber bands also work a treat and this is another great challenge for the subs out there building up the number on nipples and being instructed as to how long to keep them on. Obviously again need to experiment with different sizes and tensions - and have scissors ready to cut them off it need be.
Well rubber bands work very well as cock rings too although you need to make sure they are not too tight. Orgasms wearing these are different again to standard cock rings and once more please have scissors ready! Just be careful no Bobbit moments.
Hair bands also work well as they dig in less as thicker than hair bands. Put aside your inhibitions and experiment. If you really want to be wild try jubilee clips. These are not great for sex as slightly sharp edges but they work wonders for masturbation or just to make you feel kinky. Put them on when soft, tighten the screw and wait :) Just keep the screwdriver to hand in case too tight. Mr Betty went to bed once wearing and woke up one morning with them too tight and needed to make a mad rush for the tool box!
Well obviously there is rope and we love some of the cotton and silk rope in different colours that we sell, but simple natural fibre rope is also wonderful and easy to get from DIY stores. Actually, for some shibari we prefer the natural look and it is far closer to the original kinbaku origins in Japan for restraining prisoners.
If rope is a bit much then there is always ribbon or tape. Of course the problem with strong tape like gaffer tape or packaging tapes is that it sticks to skin and hairs and is horrible to remove - think removing a plaster x 100. Now you can buy bondage tape that sticks on itself in pretty pinks and purples - we tried recently and it works a treat - but if using gaffer tape then just wrap a small towel or handkerchief around first and put the tape around this.
Straps of course, the type used to secure goods in shipment on a lorry, are brilliant for restraining your loved one so one for perky van and lorry drivers out there. Might know one or two.
Back indoors try cling film. Very cheap and very easy and not painful to remove. This isn’t going to work very well for tying wrists to a bed post but it is great for tying arms or legs together or arms to side and fixed to whole body.
Back on the rope instead of buying expensive leather manacles you can learn to tie a bracelet/cuff (more on another time but lots of great videos out there) and instead of buying handcuffs you can learn to make a pair of rope handcuffs that will restrain somebody in minutes - and a good party trick to impress your friends.
Well obviously towels and neck ties work as masks but towels for gags work well too. And back to our old favourites rope and tape. If you can’t get a towel to stay on just tape it up or use tape as a gag for that prisoner look :) More beautiful, you can use basic rope and learn to make a rope gag and even incorporate wrist restraints.
Is there such a thing? Somebody must have done something weird. Please let us know below - no shame. Making a hole in a giant Barble or Dumbo soft toy are acceptable answers - no shame here :)
Well put away your floggers, crops, whips, paddles etc and look around house and garage. How about just a piece of wood? We had some great times with an offcut we saw laying around. For something more precise try a wooden spoon - we’ve seen pictures of lady we know after some spoon treatment and the patterns were beautiful. It was hard to believe that they were made by a humble wooden spoon. Of course there is a belt too and a host of others things. Back on rope you could even make your own rope flogger although this does take some time and effort and is not easy.
On a more lighthearted note you could make a DIY Fleshlight or masturbator. Take some toilets rolls, or something bigger from kitchen paper for you big boys, and cut a slit the full length. Then line inside and out with bubble wrap and lube up generously. It’s a bit hit and miss but sort of works :)
No no no - don’t use things around the house for these! Not everyone realises but wax candles used for sexual play have a low melting point. Do not use standard wax candle or you will burn the skin. Get some these lovely wax candles instead :) Ditto for electro play - if done wrong this can be very dangerous of course and best to buy the real equipment designed for this purpose - you won’t go too wrong with a little 9 volt battery but don’t get the car battery out and start going wild! :)
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Right hope that was food for thought. I’m off the check the fridge to find something to play with…..I mean to make dinner. Please share your thoughts and experiences below. We’ve all got different ideas on this topic. And don't worry as your email won't show if you comment.
]]>A wonderful story from Belle, a great friend from the swinging world, on her journey into swinging and BDSM:
My journey into kink started just over a year ago. Well, I say just over a year ago – that’s when I actually started to do something about thoughts and desires that had been swirling around in my brain for much, much longer than that! Being from a “nice”, “middle class” (i.e. very vanilla!) background, I obviously believed that there was something very wrong with me for wanting to be restrained, spanked, degraded and “forced” - to be honest, even enjoying sex seemed wrong. Being in a long-term, emotionally abusive relationship didn’t help, nor did the fact that I’d been sexually assaulted as a young child.
]]>My journey into kink started just over a year ago. Well, I say just over a year ago – that’s when I actually started to do something about thoughts and desires that had been swirling around in my brain for much, much longer than that! Being from a “nice”, “middle class” (i.e. very vanilla!) background, I obviously believed that there was something very wrong with me for wanting to be restrained, spanked, degraded and “forced” - to be honest, even enjoying sex seemed wrong. Being in a long-term, emotionally abusive relationship didn’t help, nor did the fact that I’d been sexually assaulted as a young child.
But, I digress! About a year or so ago, I had healed enough from those things to decide that it was time for me to explore some of these desires and dabble in the swinging and BDSM world. After all, I have never judged anyone for their sexual desires (as long as they’re legal and consensual) so it was about time I stopped judging myself. My first introduction to the kinkier side of life, was within a short-term, fun relationship where I experienced fisting for the first time (resulting in a swift purchase of a latex sheet to cope with the effects….!) and some minor domination. I found that submitting to someone else’s control was a huge turn on for me, as was a firm grip on my throat as instructions were spoken into my ear in a low, masterful tone. Sadly, lockdown restrictions curtailed this relationship, but it had opened my eyes and my imagination enough to know that I definitely wanted to explore the dom sub world and bondage further. So I did.
Before I continue, I must add the caveat that at all times there was a safe word in place, I was with someone I trusted and there had been conversations about limits. Consent was a crucial aspect, and feeling safe enough to let these new experiences unfurl.
My first dom/sub experience occurred a few months later (restrictions had eased, isolation precautions were taken etc). I’d been speaking to someone I’d met through a popular online dating site. There had been a LOT of discussion about things before we met, and more when we were finally able to meet up. This turned out to be a one-off encounter, but dear god, we packed a lot into it! Over the course of a good few hours, I experienced orgasm denial, different forms of restraint – including a collar which, at one point, was attached to a hook in the floor to ensure I remained in the “whore position” (on all fours, arse up and head down), and being spanked for the first time – I’m slightly smug about the fact that he broke his cane during this, although I suspect it wasn’t a particularly strong cane to begin with! He dominated me with his orders, his voice, his actions and the air of authority that he exuded. Afterwards, he also made me a cup of tea and scrambled eggs (aftercare, people, it’s important!).
From this I did some research, and found a less mainstream, more kinky dating site. I explored the forums to learn more about dom/sub relationships, BDSM and the wild, wondrous world of kink. I’m fairly unshockable, but blimey, there’s some interesting stuff out there! Through this site, I met L. He has become a friend and a guide through the sometimes dangerous waters of this journey of being a sub. With his help, I set up a profile on another, pretty well-known, site. He gave me advice on how to spot Doms and Wannabe Doms (who are basically just bullies who are in it for to get their rocks off, with no care or consideration for the sub). Thanks to him, I’ve avoided a few potentially damaging experiences. He also taught me to deepthroat 😉
My journey continued with getting to know people via this site. I met a gorgeous couple for my very first FFM threesome. They are genuinely lovely people, who took the time to understand my anxieties, and to ensure I felt safe at all times. When we met, I didn’t feel pressurised to play – although, we definitely played! The whole experience was amazing, and they still laugh and tease me about my reaction to them using a wand on me. Again, something I’d never experienced - apparently the look on my face was something to behold! (Although, I do feel slightly bad that it may have caused some minor flooding on their bedding – if you haven’t figured it out yet, I am a squirter!). I’m still in touch with these wonderful people and hope to be for a long time.
As my confidence grew, I was open to trying more things – I had another FFM threesome where I experienced wax play and glass dildos (wow…. they’re fabulous!). I’ve been led out into the woods whilst collared and cuffed, forced onto my knees, face-fucked and fucked to the point of no longer caring if anyone walked past as I was lost in the moment, begging for permission to cum. Over time, I’ve learnt that I love to submit (but only in sexual situations) and I’ve worked through my need for degradation or humiliation. I still love to be called a slut and a whore, but I’ve learnt that the more extreme forms of these are not for me. I am glad I explored them though, and if they’re for you – go for it!
The last person I got chatting with on “that site” turned out to be a surprise. One of the most significant pieces of advice L gave me was “don’t go falling in love”. The majority of people on the site are there to experience something they may not be getting at home, are exploring their “dark side” or are just there for fun. As was I. I didn’t want a relationship. I was perfectly happy with my single status and the freedom to explore what I wanted, when I wanted, and with whoever I wanted. But then, I saw a profile that intrigued me. Being a bit nervous about the whole first message thing, I sent a wink and, to my surprise, he messaged me. Once we got chatting, we just clicked. The first time we met, it felt like meeting someone I’d known for years. And I can’t wait to see where it goes next. Sorry L, I went and fell in love…..
]]>The menopause went pretty smoothly albeit with night sweats which were unbearable. I’m sure that I could have been plugged into the national grid and at times heated a small country, but nevertheless I survived and came out the other side.
And sex after 50 has never been better.
Some people are worried about vaginal dryness and I’m not scared to use lube but I find that actually I get as wet, or even wetter, than I did before.
One thing I would recommend ladies is to do your pelvic floor exercises. There are some wonderful products out there to help and have fun at the same time - kegel balls, orgasm balls, ben wa balls, jiggle balls, etc. including ones made of glass and steel - and some are truly beautiful. Kegel weights sound a bit scary mind you! But don’t fear as nothing like that is needed if you find the right advice from a professional, and the web is awash with useful info with the correct way to do this - sat watching the TV, shopping…don’t over exercise mind you…it’s not a marathon
However, be careful if you go down the sex toy kegel exercise route - great fun but I did have a disaster on a trip to Sainsburys!
After much reading and research, as you do, I stumbled on some steel duo balls…basically pop the little darlings in and let the vagina grip and hold them - easy to use. So I did just that - popped the little balls of joy into my vagina, and whatever possessed me, decided, “actually this is easy .. I’ll go shopping!!”
So if you know Sainsbury’s you always have the veg section first and I was wandering around, getting a little turned on by the way having never done anything like this before and then realised “I can’t do this for a full shop.” I could gradually feel my muscles not gripping as much as I once thought - thankfully I’d put on pants, but not jeans for added support.
Cut a long story short - shopping was tomatoes, cucumber and an iceberg salad for tea!. I had the feeling that everyone was watching me as I started to do the strangest of walks, crossed legged, holding wee motion (ministry of silly walks anyone), and if you’ve done this ladies you know you end up doing a strange kind of wiggle. I was pretty relieved to see not many at the checkout and as soon as I was in my car these bad boys were out quicker than you can say fanny flaps.
Big lesson learnt - never try any products that involve down there, without a trial run in the safety of your own home… oddly these little bad boys are magnetic, and have the ability to attract safety pins and paper clips so they came in handy. I’ll be honest, the weight of them was unexpected and a surprise...could you imagine it, picking eggs and them dropping out like bouncing bombs down the aisle.
One of the great outcomes is now I have the strength to hold my partner’s cock, and if I really try I can massage from top to base. Don’t worry I won’t be shooting ping pong balls out of my vag…but don’t neglect this muscle group.
At this rate I plan to be having great sex in my 80’s, 50 is the new 20 😊
UPDATE - just had these fantastic new glass yoni eggs arrive in stock. If you get bored with kegel exercises then they make beautiful ornaments :)
Full on anal sex is fun but but we do love anal sex toys and and they are a great way to ease into anal play for those new and nervous. Of course, even the more experienced need to ease into things and prepare slowly.
So we were all ready. Kinky Betty had douched beforehand and we had the lube lined up, including a special lubricant for anal sex with a slight desensitising agent. After the usual foreplay, we moved on glass butt plugs as a way to get things things going. The small one really just slips in once lubed up and is a perfect introduction. It would be great to just stop there for beginners. There is obviously a whole range of anal butt plugs out there but there is something special about glass butt plugs. It slid in easily and the coolness of the glass gave a wonderful feeling, so I was told. And with the hardness of the glass, I could feel it very easily against my cock inside.
Anyway that went fine and then we moved up to the larger glass butt plug to up things a notch. Same wonderful feeling and stretched slightly more.
Then time for the for the inflatable butt plug. As you can see from the picture there are two main parts - the vaguely dildo shaped part that is very soft and relatively thin and the bulb part that is used to pump up the dildo once inside. The dildo part is very soft with no air but when pumped up gets much larger and quite hard.
So more anal lube and away we go. I must admit that after the glass dildos I thought the inflatable butt plug would just slide in but it was a struggle. It sort of went half in and then the rest needed a lot of pushing, wiggling, squeezing etc. Betty was not exactly comfortable but she is a brave soul. After a bit more lube and wiggling, voila It was in. Time to pump and see what this baby can do.
Then I realised and went into “oh fuck fuck fuck!” mode. Betty later said she was tad worried. Had I cum too early? (yes I was fucking as all this was going on) Had there been a minor catastrophe? Bleeding?
Then I giggled. Twat face here has inserted the bulb pump end rather than the dildo end. Not only is not shaped for anal insertion but because it’s for pumping, the air flows back and always keeps it hard. So I was trying to insert a rather large hard bulbous object instead of the soft thin one ready for pumping. It always pay to know your arse from your elbow or pump from your dildo.
After the brief shock and panic, the pump was removed and shock horror the right part slid in very easily. Once in and started pumping Betty said it was a very different sensation to anything she had felt before - very different to normal butt plugs, dildos, cocks etc. Much more full and engulfing. We need another go without the hiccup but a great little addition to the toy bag and judging by the subsequent blow job very well appreciated by Kinky Betty! :)
I did have my eye on getting a locking butt plug which looks something like a corkscrew crossed with one of those screw fixings that opens out butterfly wings as you tighten the screw. Based on recent form I had better not buy. I might get confused and try to open a bottle of wine with it and use the corkscrew on poor Betty!
Yours truly,
Just about not in the dog house
]]>We are a couple - Kinky Betty herself and, sometimes even more kinky, Mr. Betty. We are normal everyday people in real life but also swingers, kinksters and generally in love with exploring sex in all it’s wonderful forms. We have lots of friends in the swinging community and love nothing better than swapping stories and experiences so decided to bring some of that to our new little home here at Kinky Betty’s.
Yes, this site sells sex toys and adult goods but we want it to entertain and educate as well. So expect some funny stories from us and some of our friends, but also some serious stuff helping those new to certain areas. We love vanilla sex and being slightly kinky but also some extreme BDSM and bondage so will share some thoughts for those looking to explore new areas.
Oh and of course product reviews. It might take some time to get through the thousands of products on here - not sure our genitals are up to that - but we will do our best with fun product descriptions and blogs on interesting products. But we also want you to all join in! Please review a product and the more honest and funny the better. Vouchers awarded for entertaining reviews for all you comedy writers out there. And please comment on our blogs with your own thoughts.
A word on what we are not. The internet is full of sex toy blogs that have been SEO’ed to within an inch of their lives - that is Search Engine Optimisation for the less internet aware naughty people out there. If you arrived here by searching one of the following, apologies as you will be disappointed:
We will collate some products that we love and that are a bit unusual perhaps but sorry we won’t be full of top 10 lists. Together with our friends, we will hopefully entertain with a few stories and thoughts along the way and make you come back.
So please bookmark us, sign up for our emails and follow on social media and, if feeling really generous, share something from our site with a friend. And if really really generous perhaps even buy something and write a review.
We look forward to sharing more with all you lovely people xx
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PS any dildo will do for your gran, most butt plugs will make your husband squirm, and where are you going to hide the sex doll so your wife won’t find it?
PPS if you want to look at the wonderful steel nipple pegs in the picture please click here :)
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